tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post6574352399304799459..comments2024-03-01T06:20:29.087+00:00Comments on qualia and other wildlife: The teachings of angerrosellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00971482422276765335noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-39201693833131842682016-03-07T15:32:57.228+00:002016-03-07T15:32:57.228+00:00Thank you. xxThank you. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-77298731098168039662016-03-06T14:56:33.904+00:002016-03-06T14:56:33.904+00:00Marg, I mean your penultimate sentence, in fact......Marg, I mean your penultimate sentence, in fact... xrosellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00971482422276765335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-90270117309087132892016-03-06T14:55:56.764+00:002016-03-06T14:55:56.764+00:00Marg, I can so relate to your last sentence. And y...Marg, I can so relate to your last sentence. And yes, I learned to be a buffer too through trying to be extravert (I'm naturally an introvert) and distracting people with humour, kindness and pickin up the pieces that resulted from others' anger. I'm so glad we're not alone, and yes we're learning all the time. Thanks so much for taking the time to post your thoughts.<br /><br />Love<br /><br />Rrosellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00971482422276765335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-39326155835851303952016-03-06T10:43:11.743+00:002016-03-06T10:43:11.743+00:00In our family, my dad expressed anger by bellowing...In our family, my dad expressed anger by bellowing to my mother and we knew he was angry and she would resolve it. We three girls therefore 'resolved' other people's anger by kindness, humour, whatever skills we could develop. It has taken years for me to identify when I'm angry (and often not straight away but days, weeks later) and that it is only a feeling. I used to think of I said what I thought, the relationship would end. It's an interesting subject and I'm learning all the time. love MargAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-85109361034865666112016-03-06T09:39:52.626+00:002016-03-06T09:39:52.626+00:00Roselle – I just wanted to say that writing from t...Roselle – I just wanted to say that writing from the personal I think makes it clearer and more engaging, though I can imagine that in your hands, didactic would be just as good. And yes, I completely agree: 'we can really only change 'in here,' truly' before everyone can. Whichever way you look at it, it's a subject that must be addressed. I'm sure it'll resonate for most people.<br />And yes, I have, over years, decided that I have a choice: I don't always have to think of myself as bad!<br />With love, Miriam xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-71264282303234887582016-03-05T20:40:03.726+00:002016-03-05T20:40:03.726+00:00Oh Miriam thank you for that affirmation. I've...Oh Miriam thank you for that affirmation. I've been feeling uncomfortable about that piece, and I think it's because I set out to write about anger from a Buddhist perspective but ended up feeling I could really only write from my own experience rather than more didactically, but it made the whole piece more personally focused and less involved with issues around changing injustice 'out there' - though of course we can really only change 'in here', truly; and that is our contribution. Nonetheless, it was good to hear it resonated for you.<br /><br />And how dreadful, to be labelled as 'bad'. What adults do to children without even realising it...<br /><br />With love<br /><br />Rxrosellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00971482422276765335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-14571433155739285052016-03-05T09:43:24.810+00:002016-03-05T09:43:24.810+00:00Much fellow-feeling here, Roselle. Such a vital, f...Much fellow-feeling here, Roselle. Such a vital, fascinating subject – wish we had more time to discuss it all at length.<br />Very interesting that my father sounds similar to yours: sensitive, talented, loving but also with a frightening temper, simmering until eruption, then simmering afterwards for a bit longer before vanishing. Until next time. I inherited it! So I have an intimate relationship with my temper and its need for tempering. As a child my grandmother called me 'bad' and it never left me, though I tried hard to be better. I married a man rather like my father who'd been brought up to repress anger: rows, any show of strong feeling, was banned. But it's been a gift, too, in that we've both been forced to step back (as far as we can when irate) and consider before opening mouth.<br />Interesting to read about 5 rhythms dance. Might try it.<br />Thanks again for such a clearly-written, much-needed piece (or should that be peace?!) <br />Miriam xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com