tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post6096570482580415395..comments2024-03-01T06:20:29.087+00:00Comments on qualia and other wildlife: the creative tension of personal relationshipsrosellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00971482422276765335noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-37473405931564368152016-08-29T15:39:02.145+01:002016-08-29T15:39:02.145+01:00Miri, hello from la belle and very hot France! I e...Miri, hello from la belle and very hot France! I expect your friends will have been and gone, and I hope it was a more comfortable time this time. Failing that, I have recently had to learn the hard way that there are some friendships from whom one simply has to walk away. We need people around us who affirm us, and vice versa of course.<br /><br />Looking forward to the next instalment of TWR (though no hurry from my POV).<br /><br />Love to both<br /><br />Rxrosellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00971482422276765335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5055598777203654547.post-25737008153921518812016-08-22T13:59:03.673+01:002016-08-22T13:59:03.673+01:00A fantastic, invaluable, piece, Roselle. It's ...A fantastic, invaluable, piece, Roselle. It's heart-warming to read this sort of wisdom to which I've subscribed for most of my adult life and probably long before that, though less consciously. You put it so well: 'sometimes the most loving thing another can do for us is to shake us up and out of our complacency, our habitual grooves. That doesn't mean it's fun; but it may be necessary.' <br />Oh yes, we (J & I) both know this feeling so well. <br />And every paragraph says something equally true. When most of the people we know would react to this with the words: 'navel-gazing, egocentric', it's always reassuring to know there are people like you out there to help us feel 'affirmed for who one is.' National Curriculum, please listen!<br /><br />But none of this will be a surprise to you. It's just a good time for us to hear you say it, two days away from seeing friends we've known for nearly 40 years who have so little self-knowledge (resulting, recently, in one of them constantly undermining me) that we wonder how long our friendship will last without some plain, uncomfortable speaking on our part. Poor woman is, I think, going through a difficult time, but finds it hard to admit to it. I hope we can grow through it but we're not optimistic.<br />And yes, I must always have this in mind when writing. Much to cover still in my novel, but it's very absorbing and always enlightening.<br /><br />Thanks as ever,<br />love, Miri<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com